This event with the same look forward to both children and parents. "We'll go to school!" - Proud to say mom and dad and grandparents. "I'm going to first grade!" - Enthusiastically tells all and sundry, family and strangers, your child. Finally, the day of the "X" - the first of September. Your baby is happily and proudly pacing in front of you, pulling on the shoulders of my very first pack that is packed full of the very first in his life, school supplies - pens and pencils, rulers, notebooks, erasers and notebooks, and no one trusts his precious burden. And not paying attention to your moaning and sighing, said: "I was not hard, I did." Ruler, frail girl with a white ribbon on the shoulders of lanky senior high school student, the first call. And so, first-graders sit at desks, shifted, and sit back ... Probably, at this point they begin to understand how this is serious - the school.

One day, one day is not your student tearfully said: "I do not go to this school! I do not want to go there! ". You are at a loss, a child cries and refuses to meet in school. Why? Explanations that may be great variety - from the fear of being alone, without parental support, to conflicting relations with classmates and teachers. The most common reason for the reluctance of the child to go to school is that he got into unfamiliar surroundings, can not adapt to it, find its place in the new team. Hence it is often a consequence of the fear of attending school, the child stubbornly refuses to go there.

The first step is to figure out the real cause of failure of attendance at an educational institution. But be that as it may, in any case not allow your child to stay home. His fear only strengthen, and to it can also add a delay to the program, which is highly undesirable. Despite the fact that the reasons for which your child is reluctant to attend school, can be real and objective and you should be firm and persistent in their desire to return to your child in school. The child, especially a small, no more motivation that would justify going to school. Children go to school, obeying parents. Therefore, in the case of reluctance to go to school it is you, the parents should explain the need for her visit. Child of preschool age are often quite simple explanation was that he was able to learn many new and interesting. Older children should explain that without education it will be closed by way of the future. In addition, there is a law stating that all children should get at least a basic education.

Be honest with your child, never run away in secret - he may decide that you are betraying him, leaving a strange place. Leaving, promise him back - it will give the kid vivacity. Young children love to bring their toys to school. Do not let him do so. Reminder of the house will help him to hold out until your return. Think of a ritual to return home after school - go to the ice-cream on the way home, buy a new book, all this strengthens the motivation of a child going to school - because after-school cases, such a pleasant event! While your child is small, do not leave it in the schoolyard, to accompany him to class, let him meet the teacher.

Over time, the negative reaction of the child at school dies down, be sure to ask about your child's teacher how he behaves when you leave. If his tears ceased immediately after you get out of sight, you can stop worrying - adapting the child to school has been successful. But it also happens that refuse to go to school children, who for years attended her willingly. In this case the inevitable talk of souls. Need to find out what worries children. Not interfere with and talk to the teacher, attentive teacher will notice that something was wrong and will share with you my thoughts about the cause of your child's reluctance to go to school. It can be anything - and poor performance in the subjects, and the conflict between students, and first love, the options are countless.

Equally important is the home environment. Family troubles, parents' divorce, death of someone from the family - all this affects the child's ability and willingness to learn. Be sure to tell him the truth - the lie can only exacerbate the situation. Explain that family matters - is one thing and learning - quite different from what you need to cope with difficulties, and the best thing that could make it difficult for the family in a minute - is to relieve you of worries about his academic performance. Try to prepare the child for the fact that the study - is not only a celebration and fun, it's also hard work. Thorny path to knowledge. But at the same time, your child should be confident in your support in difficult moments for him. Do not skimp on the praise - to the point expressed approval can inspire and give strength even in the most difficult days.

Do not criticize teachers

Parents should know that how well and happy to learn our child depends not only on his intellect. Often the attitudes of parents of the child to his teacher to a large extent determine the success of their school children. Actually this man-child will learn a lot from it depends on the mood of the child in school, his desire to learn. Never, under any circumstances allow yourself to be disparaging reviews about your child's mentor. Always attempt to establish warm relations with the teachers until you get them understanding, in the end and you and they want one thing - that your child has really learned man. Be understanding towards your child's teacher.

Very difficult, almost impossible to exercise justice and to seek their own, even when dealing with two children, and in the class they are not two, not even twelve, and much more. Your child will be easier to accept criticism from the mouth of the teacher, if he will know that you are a positive attitude towards him and respect his authority. A child with great care and understanding react to criticism from the mouth of the teacher who like and try to change their behavior. Teachers are people too, and more often and with great attention and positive attitude, and perceived parental criticism, if you notice that they are treated with friendliness and without prejudice.

Try to objectively relate to the stories of their children - they tend to denigrate "unfair teachers and to whitewash himself -" innocent victim ". Strive to understand and find the truth. As a rule, it is somewhere in between. Be friendly, compliant and uncritical, try to avoid expressing a claim irreconcilable, it is better to express them in disguised form - as the wishes and requests. Often praise the teachers, thank him for his excellent teaching, say that your child is enthusiastic about the methods of presentation - all this to flatter him and set it on a friendly attitude towards you and your child. And really, after all these nice people the child can not be slobs, right? Teachers - the same people (at least that many).