Your lover in something nedotyagivaet to the ideal, and you are sure that for your sake, he agrees to fix its shortcomings. You think that with time you will be able to alter your vote. Do not be so sure of this. Many of the girls mistakenly believe that their choice must necessarily change for the better, if so requested by a beloved woman. They believe that love for men, for example, will not make much effort to quit smoking, become more accurate, economical and hard working.

 Once the lover gets into their network, the girls immediately take the hard work in transforming nedotyagivayuschego to the ideal man. And, to his surprise run into a wall of misunderstanding: they love Cavaliers did not want to alter. Such a man's reaction is quite logical. Men hate it when they start to educate and remodel, and all attempts to alter a man doomed to failure . They want to find a woman who will love him and accept the way it is, with all its flaws, and not the second mother, who grumbles and complains about trifles. You would think that male reluctance "changed for" to become the ideal, is an indication that his feelings toward you so much. It is not.

Imagine the situation: your beloved is not so chistoploten and accurate as you want. And in order to "develop" him in these qualities, you are constantly reading him lectures about cleanliness and was blamed for every spot on his shirt. Are your exhortations to develop in him a sense of accuracy? Hardly. Remember that your beloved is not a baby, and already formed personality with its own advantages and disadvantages. And his every flaw that you would like to fix is already ingrained in his character.

Or, for instance, you want your beloved to prove their love for you to get rid of a bad habit - smoking. Do not try to persuade your beloved to quit, referring to the detriment of this activity. Understand this: the same hammered his parents, teachers and passers-by. And now he has reached the age when it seemed that he was entitled to dispose of their own health and take responsibility for their actions, and you try to return him a sense of fear for each cigarette you smoke. Maximum, then you can get - is that your beloved as a schoolboy, would smoke in the entrance and hide from you a cigarette.

If you decide to test his feelings for you so that you can hurt your relationship. Keep in mind that to remake man in a moment impossible. If he really loves you and values your opinion, then most likely he will try to create the illusion that he has reformed. But will have constant discomfort in your presence, will suffer and wait for the bye to have a cigarette or to remove the hated his tie, which you made to wear. He will have more and more a desire to go where he will be more comfortable and are allowed to do what he is accustomed to behave as you like. This certainly will not benefit your relationship. Of course, alteration of men to smart women - is not a fantasy, but it's not working for love, but for his wife. And sometimes a woman spends years to ensure that her beloved has acquired those qualities, which, in her opinion, it is lacking.