Cease to meet others' expectations
Place and time to implement your desires here and now. In life, there is no room drafts, no second attempt. Make a list of your desires that you have set aside "on the back burner." Divide a sheet of paper into two parts vertically and the left side of the sheet write all external causes - why, you have this desire has not yet been implemented. Then there are those who, at first glance, do not depend on you. And the right side of the sheet write all your internal reasons that these desires before, have not yet been fulfilled. Look at what happened.
It turns out that some of these reasons begin with the words "such and such a person does not do something, does not help me, do not give or not give me ..." and so on. Reformulates now all your reasons so that they begin with "I". For example, instead of "I do not have time for this" write "I do not allocate time for this." Or instead of "my father will not give me money for it" write "I'm still on it does not work" and so on. Take a look at your reasons for reformulated. What do you see? What changed for you? What feelings do you experience when viewing your reasons in the new version?
If you do everything correctly reformulated it, you'll see that there is nothing that would not depend on you. How do you do? Some people learn that everything depends on them, filled with energy and inspiration: "I can do anything to change!", While others throw up their hands: "Well, why me!" Or "What a horror, it means I myself have backed themselves into this dead end! ". What's true for you: a glass half empty or glass half full? The secret is that the real person is free to do whatever he wants to do.
Why do so few people feel free? Because freedom brings with it its board: the responsibility for each action. If you're free to do something, only you are responsible for the consequences that would entail your actions. If you are not free from the opinions of others, then others allegedly responsible for making you happy or not. Only we can change their lives, and nobody else. If you trust someone to change your life - so this man will change it as necessary to him, but not you. If you take this work on yourself, you become free from foreign influences and really do what you want.
The main secret of femininity and attractiveness - cease to meet others' expectations . If you through the installation of your parents think that being feminine - is to be a good mistress, obey her husband - the possibility of self-realization and equality with men is unattainable. Then, most likely you will meet men tyrants, criticizing and degrading you. On the other hand, if the domestic setting dictates you to be independent and "put" men's pile at his feet - you're not open to cooperation and complementarity with the man. Then, most likely you will meet men-children, irresponsible, and too vulnerable. One does not need anything beyond what he cheated nature. From the parent of the "heritage" it's time to break free.
