Confrontation in marriage
In practice, the "extinction" of certain mental components of the spouses is manifested in the fact that they are isolated from the rest of the family, from parents and other people. The intervention of relatives in the marital relationship is always only exacerbates the problem. Evidence of this can be, in particular, countless acuity over a disservice to mothers-to prevail among men. Baneful influence Rodney puts other marriages on the brink of divorce.
Even the relatives are always a problem: his mother too often interferes in the affairs of the spouses with their yardstick, the father and son in law often do not understand each other, the wife believes that her father deserves more admiration than her husband, and sometimes spouses are ashamed of their parents because those grown in a different social environment, or simply because of certain unattractive features of their character, such as greed and narrow-mindedness. For example, some cousin can, perhaps, only then to go off-color joke that nasty one of the spouses.
Many analysts and consultants to advise the marriage in such cases to limit or, if necessary, terminate any relationship with the family. In some cases this can be a real way out, but if you take into account that the confrontation in the marriage serves the cause of individuation, then this advice is highly controversial. From the theory of the collective unconscious of CG Jung, each individual is linked to unconscious mental level with all mankind, which finds concrete expression in the unconscious communication with relatives. In other words, the unconscious mind of the individual components includes close and distant relatives of the men who are a part of the reason that he is - part of them.
Rupture of relations with his family in the narrow and broad sense can be likened to the protective mechanism of repression. Present in the human soul images of close and distant relatives are no longer receiving their visible embodiment in the form of certain people who daily sit with him at the dinner table. Confrontations in marriage is the individuation especially in the case when the horizon of its most extensive and includes all the components of our soul. Thus, the confrontation with a family partner is a special psychological process, a specific path to happiness.
Marriage, in which the individuation, nadyndividualen. This idea derives its symbolic confirmation in the fact that, as a rule, the wedding ceremony involved close and distant relatives of the bride and groom, but by and large, these guests and give the impression of celebration and ceremony. Modern fashion is to celebrate a wedding in the "inner circle" is inadequate ritualistic aspects of marriage. This - unrealistic and evidence of psychological individualism, according to which the individual is not associated with the collective unconscious, while it is the collective unconscious unites people and other people, especially the individual with his family.
In my experience, spouses who are separated from their families, with all that often live relatively well, are absolutely "sterile and boring people. Here is an example. The wife comes from the so-called primitive family. Her father - a wealthy industrialist, fine, coarse and undeveloped intellectually people. A mother with her head went into the household, with no cultural opportunities. Talking parents, brothers and sisters, wives revolves around television programs and news from popular magazines.
The husband grew up in bourgeois boring family, whose members were prone to depression. His mother committed suicide when he was about twenty years. My brother always could dampen their pessimism any joy. After the wedding, which was celebrated in a very narrow circle of friends, the couple has practically ceased all relations with their families. Husband tired of his dismal relatives, while his wife was ashamed of his family. Marriage proceeded generally peacefully, but acted on the spouses' disappointingly, few friends thought this a couple of quite uninteresting.
