Do not make children's world in the limit!
The world consists of pieces of space, bounded by fences, words, thoughts and deeds. The adult world - a set of constraints. Children's world - initially free, but thanks to our efforts, it is rapidly turning into a territory demarcated pegs and flags. Why do we adults do that? Want to grow limited children? Grow obedient children? Grow unfree children? Unfortunate children grow up?
The kid was born, and began limiting
- Moving. cot, playpen and then, later - flat, sand and eternal mom-grandma look closely.
- Impressions. A day in the four walls, only two or three hours a day on the paddock-grazing. To live outside the city, going to visit - all this can not be done because the child is small, it can get. Child gets older - there are other reasons not to take it with you (for example, it will interfere).
- Food. Some meals on schedule. (The recall than adults clog your fridge.)
- Toys. tend to buy in the store, they malofunktsionalny, often divorced from real life. Household items, children are given with reluctance - break, cut yourself, hurt yourself ...
- People. I remember that I told no one except the doctors, do not show children up to a month.
- thoughts - our thoughts. It is small and, hence, more stupid, do not understand ...
Our true goal
Why should we limit our children?
- To make them happy, "for their own good." We make them bad, that they were good. Do you think one can reformulate this statement?
- To not be afraid of them or be afraid of as little as possible. To completely eliminate this fear for a child, it is best to put him in a comfortable cage that many do.
- To make their lives there was a success - life is built, mind you, by our own rules. That they are not "screwed up" in the future (sorry for the rude word, but in a different way and not say). And why we think our idea of a perfect life? We are happy? If not, then why are we trying to impose their views on the child's life? And if so, is it happy, people need someone to restrict?
- To help them decide what they want and how best to proceed, because we believe that to make an independent choice of children are not able to. A typical example: the choice of parents of high school for your child.
- That they could not do anything they want. After all, do what you want, - means to interfere with the lives of others. So? Or does not it?
- To wisely manage your time, that is, to have time to do everything. And it is instead necessary to divide the cases and minor, those that want to do, and those that do not want those that will result, and those who can not give results, even in the distant future. A typical example: our infinite korpenie over school textbooks in the hope to teach a child to learn.
Disappointing conclusions
- We believe children fools, that is mentally handicapped people who can not be either his vision of the world, nor of his own thoughts and desires.
- We prefer to be afraid for them, assuming that in this way can help them become successful. And what we find in reality?
- We are considering development of their children, but set on their way to permanent barriers and taboos. Surely in such circumstances, development is possible?
Really, creating restrictions, we can teach children to be happy? Or do you want to teach a child only to survive, we have to do something that you know how to yourself? This is the text-provocation. It is written primarily to you, my dear readers, think how much you really let yourself and your baby grow. If your current life barriers and barriers with an excess, it might be time to review the list of these restrictions, reducing it? Do not make children's world in April!
