Do not rush to feel sorry for a man
Some men try to get the woman a very effective way - they cause a pity. The mechanism of this manipulation is clear: women are unlikely to refuse to help a person unhappy and wronged by fate. In order to arouse pity women, men can pretend to be the most unhappy creatures on earth, to invent a story about how they were driven out from work, threw his wife.
In dealing with such "unfortunate" men must be very careful. If you're not aware of his companion, and you have no way to verify his legend, if not in a hurry to spare a man leave his legal right to doubt. You can easily determine whether he spoke truth to you or tries to cheat, exploit economies of the story. Sympathize with your contact and try to figure out some details of his misfortune. If he refuses to tell you my story in detail, it is likely, he wants to deceive you and force a pity.
Because if he did not want to recall this, it is unclear why he started to tell you all about their plight. There is another trait that may distinguish the imaginary from the real accident. Imaginary wretches, as a rule, very pathetic stories of his fate, it seems that they tell a romantic story, borrowed from a novel. People who actually lived through the tragedy, or very dry to present the facts of his biography, if any, try not to mention it.
Once you calculate the arm, keep your eyes open. Sure, you can sympathize, but stay sober mind, do not lose the ability to analyze what is happening. After feeling sorry deprives women of this ability, sometimes it gets to the other party credibility when he does not deserve it. You finally realize that before you skilled actor when, at the end of my story, your companion will ask for a favor.
He seemed to be apologizing for his request: "I was fired, and I do not have funds past the money went to pay the loan (or daughter's wedding) - you could not lend me a little bit until I get up on his feet?" Or another option: "I threw the wife, and I'm so lonely, I just needed female affection and tenderness." Of course, to deny such requests are very difficult, but you must remember that before you are not an unhappy man, a skillful manipulator who uses his mask to get you to do what he wants.
In such a situation need to stall for time - to try to find an opportunity to reflect on his request. Try to shoot down the robot arm with thoughts, to ensure that caused them to pity gave way to common sense. It is best to leave him a while to weigh everything and make the right decision. Once you come to yourself, you will be able to soberly assess the pros and cons of his proposal.
