Familiarity with reservations
Many relationships begin with a lie. Seeking seem better than it actually is, people are telling enthusiastically about themselves, their income and marital status. But what if the man from the very start dating speaks to you too openly? Once at a party I was approached by an interesting man, thirty years old, in an expensive, perfectly dressed and sitting hours of the well-known brands.
After dismissing a couple of gallant compliments, he introduced himself and started asking me about work, about hobbies, about the study. He led the conversation so worldly and at ease, that after five minutes I was already absolutely fascinated. "How pleasant to deal with an adult held a man!" - I thought. No vulgar allusions, no nonsense, no silly jokes. I was ready to fall in love, when my new friend flabbergasted me weird phrase.
-I am actually married. You're a grown girl, all you know. An established way of life and family is not destroyed. But the same does not mean that we should abandon the joys of love.
-I generally do not refuse from any joy - I mumbled helplessly.
-That's right, brain. Most importantly, let's not stupid. Thou shalt not nazvanivat wife, thou shalt not pester stupid questions on the topic, when I divorced, and we get along fine with you.
I really do not know why, but to get on with it I got sick sharply. I turned and walked away without saying a word. Yeah, sometimes honesty hurts men and undermines women's self-esteem. What do you do when you already managed to please a man suddenly kill you outright prosaic facts of his biography? When instead of a romantic dating you get acquainted with reservations ? The first impulse, of course, turn around and leave. And if the facts are made public really seem so outrageous to you, you certainly can do it.
On the other hand, how could you blame and condemn a man for wanting to be honest with you? Why do we always regard honesty as rude? For example, when my friend met a fashion magazine photo editor, he barely having time to charm her with his wit, stunned her by saying: "If you want to sleep with me in order to get on the cover of our magazine, just warn you - it's hopeless. Can you just make a U-turn, but does not cover. Cover is purchased.
Girlfriend was stunned, but still found the strength to reply: "Actually I wanted to meet with you." Now came his turn to be surprised: "Really?" Then I'm sorry if offended. I just wanted to direct you honestly say that I can do for you and what is not, so you could solve itself. " So before you take offense to the harsh and bitter truth, thought, and whether you need this sweet lies? Perhaps familiarity with reservations , too, has its advantages?
