Frankness carries?
All psychologists are vying advised to be as frank with your partner. It is believed that honesty is the most magical key to happiness in his personal life. And yet there are times when honesty is fraught and very risky. No, we do not mean that everything in the world psychologists are wrong and you have to have the guerrilla qualities when dealing with your man. On the contrary, openness is really useful in a number of cases. For example, if you honestly share your feelings and calmly can explain that you enjoy and what is not. Suppose you could honestly say: "I was upset when you're with friends, linger in the bath, and although I trust you, my head start to climb all sorts of wacky ideas. Maybe next time you call me so I was not worried? "
And the issue is resolved. This kind of candor is very beneficial effect on the relationship. Calmly explain that you are offended, angry or frustrated, you give her half the opportunity to fix it. Thus, you can not accumulate grievances and solve their disputes peacefully and harmoniously. This kind of honesty will be a real panacea for your love. The main thing that communication was friendly and full of understanding. But there is a risk of sparking. You certainly can not afford this kind of revelation, but it would be very risky.
1. Talk about his infidelities. You think that you confess, repent. And in actual fact you're just undermining his trust in you. The woman is usually recognized in the change because "sincerely repents and wants to start all over again." In fact, women are often driven by fear of exposure, or guilt, or desire to cross with the blame on others. Before stun favorite such confessions, put yourself in his place. Could you forgive it?
2. Frank about his fantasies. Of course, if they are politically correct, then the fear is nothing special. But if you fantaziruesh about sex with George Clooney or Tom Cruise, if not dream that by joining you in bed for your best friend a man better than his tongue.
3. Offend his friends or relatives who criticize his work or hobbies. All this candor, this is what men call "Babskii chicanery." Let his friends seem to you nerds and alcoholics, it's his friends. And no one forces you to communicate with them. With regard to parents and relatives, they are known, are not chosen. So your criticism will not change anything, except that his relationship to you. So before you do this here "dangerous recognition, recall the title of this book" How to take risks and win. " Ask yourself, Am I sure that this risk will bring me victory, and if so, what?
