How to find a common language with preschoolers?
The basic rule of communication with preschoolers: remember that their thinking specifically, they think in visual images, pictures and live within specific situations. Children under 8 years of poorly developed abstract thinking. If the little girl was asked to calculate all the guests who came to the house in order to properly set the table, put the right amount of cups and plates, it will run through the room, bending to move their little fingers:
Papa - again! Mother - two!
A uncle of Sergei?
-Uncle Sergei smokes on the balcony. I do not see it!
Relatively speaking, children do not see beyond his own nose and do not understand what they see. Children operate peeped fragments of situations, like episodes of cartoons. But it is still difficult to understand why these living heroes of comics so behave. But outside the sequence of actions of people for whom have the opportunity to observe children in monkey they remembered and then reproduced. This "picturesque" level of perception of the world little understood, but hard to remember. In addition, the child sees them every day!
What kind of morality we would then either read to children, they behave as they have been taught at the preschool age. "I do not know why ..." Therefore the main task of parents - to comment on images, in which children see the world. Otherwise they will remain klipovoe, meaningless way of thinking. And they do not know what's going on behind the scenes of the theater called "Life." How do I find a common language with preschoolers? Rule communicating with children with preschoolers is that we should simply and clearly express their thoughts.
Memo to parents
• Pick simple, familiar words. Do not forget to show what you are saying.
• Use simple sentences - instead of complex, wordy. Talking about pure, clear, slow, measured
• Do not hint. Better just to say "I am sad" than expected, that the child himself would guess about your condition or state of character tales on the behavior and facial expression: "Look, a doll's mouth is smiling. It's fun! "
• Replace the abstract concepts concrete. For example, instead of arguments about "what is good and what is bad," as in a poem by Vladimir Mayakovsky, it is better to show concrete examples of good practice: "Take a chair and put at the table. Well done! We take the second chair and set it beside the table. Excellent! How many people will drink tea? Again! Two! How many chairs? Again! Two! Hooray! Success! All good! "
• Do not forget to encourage the children for their efforts. Learning to wear a dress, tie shnurochki, sliding down slides, swim, do something out of the sand, make friends, do not be afraid of the wind, wearing glasses, to help in the garden, go to the airport, bank, zoo, post office, on the beach - it all important for preschoolers because it comes from the world of their experiences and imagery. It is important to provide them with confidence that all the unknown and mysterious, with what they encounter in life, be it on the shoulder.
• Warning! If you do not teach children to frolic together, do not go with them step role-playing games, they have "stuck" in phase "autistic" sessions with yourself.
• Try to explain to new stages. You can not teach a child all at once, waving his hands and laughed loudly, that you-all easily understandable, but the child can not catch everything on the fly.
• Humor - a way to make contact with any person, especially a child. But in preschool children - a special sense of humor. What it seems ridiculous, but what they absolutely do not understand? Remember that children prefer visual humor. Because they think in pictures! Abstract concepts, semantic metaphor, allegory - not for them. If a child is laughing, it is likely, in company with you - the children can easily infect a laugh!
Preschoolers amused by a funny gait, flexed face, loud laughter or sounds. All types of comedy, built on the physical action of interest to children. For example, children will love the next scene: the characters collide with each other, rejoicing fall, get stuck, stumbling, etc.
Clown is the most favorite type of child comedy. It uses stupidity, absurdity, tricks, deceptions (eg, one character makes to do something else to achieve his goal: Fox makes Crow to sing, so that she opened her mouth and dropped the cheese). Young children, of course, more like tricksters and rogues than deceived - in short, those who ultimately hold everyone. In different cultures there are his characters, sly. In Russian fairy tales it is fox, cat, A soldier, Gingerbread Man and Masha.
• Children like it when there is something unusual, unexpected, for example, Changeling, familiar story. Imagine that the wolf and Little Red Riding Hood are found in the woods, and then together go to Grandma. Or, for example, when launching a rocket from Dunno, the hero suddenly removed from the car and flies on its own. Preschool also like the absurdity of the exterior: the unexpected costumes, funny hats and glasses, funny hair and shoes, as well as silly or exaggerated features and items of clothing (for example, a woman who wears a huge sombrero). And, of course, kids are delighted when there are objects, people and animals, publishing unexpected sounds: a banana, which "sounds" like a trumpet, or duck, which is "barking."
• Warning! Young children love to make fun of their parents, especially if they manage to hold adults. For example, they can hide, and very pleased when they have not noticed.
• Preschoolers love animals, that make something funny and amazing.
It can be animals with human features. For example, behave like humans, cats, ducks, fish, etc. - in cartoons, or performances, talking parrot, the dog brings the ball - in real life. And what children like animals that try to do something that contradicts their size and abilities! For example, an ant, which drags a long straw, or an elephant, who is busy with something small and fragile. But be careful not to impart to his dazed animal cruelty!
• Young children love to look at the babies on television and in real life. Perhaps, watching younger gives them strength and confidence. When they see how babies are fed, taught to walk or change diapers, children realize how much they already know how. Many of them have a little brother and sister, and they see how they grow and develop. Like preschoolers, of course, play mums and dads to take care of "baby" in a role-playing game.
• Children do not understand the complicated play on words, but they like the funny-sounding words and phrases, long, silly-sounding, or invented words: "Achuchapucha! Tah-tara-bang-zhah-wah! "They like simple rhymes. When a small poem contains rhyming words, kids think it's ridiculous. Change the words or phrases in familiar songs and rhymes - great game: so much fun with a familiar word to repeat myself a new one. For example, in the poem Agnes Barto word "mistress" to replace the "shrimp": "Bunny threw ... shrimp!". Kids love to play with the intonation, use some kind of special diction, especially if the word or phrase is already sounding ridiculous.
