Politeness - it's wonderful! If you follow the correct tones to communicate with your loved ones and relatives, you can only praise and envy of your tolerance. And yet there are situations where acrimony within reason you play the hand. Of course, it is good if you can arrange everything from their families in peace and have no need to tip in their address or sarcastically to parry some of their statements. But if people close do not understand human language, has to resort to a literal metaphor. Sometimes it is very difficult to tactfully answer the faux pas. As in the famous book "Bridget Jones's Diary," where the protagonist is constantly subjected to ridicule and insults his mother and her friends about the fact that she is "still not married." How to respond to tactless questions? Here is an example of life:

My friend Assia years patiently and stoically endured questions about their relatives, but when she and her husband finally zavedut children. Asya's had some health problems. She received treatment for infertility, and constant interrogation is not the best way affects its nervous system. Once on the big family meal, once again raised the issue Asino motherhood. Relatives talked and discussed them with the intimate marital problems. Finally Asin uncle asked:

-Well, eh, there we have not time to open the champagne on the occasion of the addition in your family or you have another couple of godkov idle to work?

Such a faux pas was unable to tolerate Asya:

-What are you, Uncle Lesh, we'll open the champagne when your book published. That is, in my opinion, truly good cause. Incidentally, when will it happen? Hopefully, the other day? Or are you a couple of years wasted work?

Uncle Lesha red as a lobster, and the whole family burst out laughing. The fact that Uncle Lesha considered himself a poet. Every night during the last three years, he secluded himself in his office and worked. Yet unclaimed. To publish his poetry no hurry. Maybe Asin attack and did not differ delicacy, but at least it finally left alone with insensitive questions. So I advise to know when you should not stand on ceremony and swallow offensive words. Sometimes it is a time to joke in response to put people in place. If it's really close to you man, he will forgive your sarcasm. But it soon becomes clear what it is - to be under fire from other people's ridicule.