Think about it: what prevents you to feel confident in communicating with the opposite sex? Birthmark on her cheek, small breasts or big nose? Or maybe you're afraid seem silly or constrained? Often thought of his own imperfections do not allow you to feel very, very. But there is a solution! How often do you pronounce the phrase "I - the most charming and attractive?" At least to myself. Many will say: "No, because ... And then - a list of their own imperfections. But the phrase" Everyone has their own shortcomings "and" Not everybody is lucky "We are willing to take on the arms and carry the flag, allowing them to influence our successes, achievements and popularity with the opposite sex. What makes us all the time to look for a cons, keeping in mind the many benefits? It usually is self-doubt becomes the main cause of our failures.

7 ways to believe in themselves

It is important to realize: all you can fix. And it all begins not with his own shortcomings (often imaginary), and lifestyle and attitude.

1. PLANNING. Makes for a little plan for the day. Improve it, trying to predict the possible force majeure. Draw on paper a kind of labyrinth, which will take into account many situations. After some time, such as "the card with secret passages will always be present in your thoughts. And you will be able to find a way out of the very difficult situation.

2. Remember them all. Arrange the evening in a quiet place, grab a blanket, a cup of tea and try to relax. Reminisce. To revive the memory of a situation where you behaved heroically, defended his opinion, is at the center of attention or unwittingly, fall in love with a stranger. Let it be the little story of your success. Try to remember the feelings that have you in the process of introspection. Move the story on paper, write a short story and, more importantly, consider all that you did in that moment. This will be an action plan that will help you become more confident.

3. SPORTS. If you're too emotional, too aggressive, or, conversely, a very gentle man, a universal way to get rid of those weaknesses and become stronger - sports. Best by any martial art. This can be a powerful karate, judo or plastic tactful and beautiful capoeira. Sports always brings precision, peace and rhythm, and it is - a sure path to gaining self-confidence.

4. Psychodrama. This psychological practice is based on the transfer of its experiences in an impromptu theatrical stage. Create your own little theater. Select an interesting role in which your disadvantage, perceived or real, big or small, will turn into a huge advantage. Or play a game of "man from the": try to imagine what really brings your little drawback. Maybe him and none at all, or surrounding it just did not notice? In your small theater all fall into place.

5 the opposite direction. You something is not comfortable with their appearance? Try not to mask the unloved part of the body. Do the opposite. Convincingly proves himself and all that you - personality. And to help you in this great actor. Remember that Laurence Olivier's one eye was smaller than the other and slightly squinting, which gave him the look of particular appeal. And incredibly attractive Anna Magnani has a sharp, irregular features.

6. Hyperstimulatio. Great philosophers of antiquity asserted: if too often to talk about feelings, it will be darkened. More share their experiences and even talk about them myself. Then emotions weaken. In the end, you and think about it does not feel like it.

7. LAUGH. People love those who can laugh at themselves. Often jokes about his shortcomings, and the surrounding infiltrate your sympathy.

Transform cons of big pluses

In order to cope with their complexes, just look at the situation from a different angle

CHARACTER. Feel insecure at a party among strangers? Call it not shyness and modesty. What is not dignity, which is known to decorate! If a woman has a lot of silent, this does not mean that it has nothing to tell. Become a star of the evening is very simple. No need to attract the attention of all at once. Choose from the one person who can help you get acquainted with others. It always exists and will be a lifeline. Ask him to introduce you to others. And when the company would meet to discuss current news and funny stories, do not be afraid to tell his. It will be interesting for everyone, especially if it seems interesting to you. At this moment in people's minds must be postponed: you - very bright and cheerful person who is able to infect their mood and energy. And this is the first step to real popularity.

TALENT. You are a lover come to the party, and where every second - an artist, and every third - the musician. You do not have such notable talents, because the soul goes to the heel, and before the satellite becomes unbearably shameful. You think that you - the mediocrity and love you not for what. It is not necessary to dwell on this account. If a man holds your hand and proposed to build relationships for you, then you have something won his heart. And these qualities are much skill to win before the dance, paint with oil or demonstrate tricks. Perhaps you are sensitive and understanding man, do you think makes the flutter of his heart, and the magic smile just robs the mind.

Wardrobe. Kompleksuete due to lack of clothing in your closet prestigious brands? However, the dress is expensive - not to dress nicely. More importantly: is correct, refined and tasteful pick wardrobe. Perhaps you are able to combine the extraordinary clothing and accessories, pre-guess the fashion trends of the next year and know all about combining colors. And then you completely suited to the role of fashion consultant, whose opinion will be listened to.

Appearance. Including television, every day we see the world famous stars: actresses, singers, top models. They form in our minds the stereotype of beauty. Looking at their snow-white smile, we forget that celebrities over the way the sweat of working professionals: makeup artists, stylists, plastic surgeons, and many others. And yet, to be attractive and feminine, does not necessarily have the appropriate standards of proportion. To do this just to get accustomed to his closer and love me. For who you are. This feeling, combined with charm, taste and desire to improve and make you very, very!