"Climbing to the next stage of your career - an event in most cases pleasant. If it was not a "but": finding a new status, we risk losing friends. The prospect of a sad, especially if the experience of friendship amounts to many years.

In response, social scientists say that a strong friendship is nothing else than as an attribute of an archaic society. In today's office culture, where the transition from one job to another is seen as a natural stage of social growth, "friendship for life" is losing its former value. "  In less drastic cases, the transition to a new social level, one way or another, leads to a narrowing circle of friends . Those who have experienced similar situations, they say that usually it starts with little things, but away from it is virtually impossible.

But even if one pays for a successful meeting in a fancy restaurant, make gifts, detachment in relationships still appear. And in the end the friendship ends. Usually, the appearance of distance in a friendly circle, or due to envy of "losers", or starry disease who reached the summit on the career ladder. Envy - a comparison yourself with others, agree that they are winners in life, and we - the losers. It bites the hardest. At this point, we change the common sense, we do not want to live their own lives, refusing to respect themselves. Comparing his life with the life of another person humiliates and can not grow in full growth, because envy is simply not possible. We have only our potential, we can develop it, or we can abandon it. Others have other opportunities, money, physique, ability, etc. But we do not have to be perfect. We must be ourselves.

Most Russians do not tend to stand out, much less risk of a successful workplace. It would seem, against this background that should be advantageous to look proactive employees. These people really stand out, but the enterprising employees annoying colleagues and cause resentment, because overstate the bar of professional accomplishments to others. In addition, the leadership may be envious of the successes of a subordinate that he too can only do harm. "Enterprising usually considered ungovernable, and in memory of our compatriots still live the Army slogan" Initiative is punishable "We should not forget about the stereotypes - those who work overtime or be creative in fulfilling the tasks management, will be condemned by his colleagues. If you envy at work , there three ways to avoid attacks envious colleagues.

Method 1. Under the guise of

Marina, a beautiful young married woman who successfully move up the career ladder, jealous of her less fortunate in their personal and professional life of a colleague Natasha. She struggled to her hurt at work. In this case the Marine should be taken? Marina, in this case, you can start complaining about family life, to pretend that it alone can not cope with their functional responsibilities. Suitable as a complete rejection of cosmetics and fashion change, the suit of my grandmother's trunk.

Surely, in this case the "gap" between them will decrease and the envy of a few weakened. Unfortunately, the Marina will feel defeated. This often leads to depression, loss of interest in work and other life pleasures. Because it violated an important psychological law: violence against his person, as a rule, has negative consequences. In general, this method of protection is left to the most extreme case. Its never too late to use.

Method 2. "Not on life and death"

Marina becomes even more beautiful, shared with colleagues, happy moments of family life, showing photos from the Canary Islands. In addition, as often as possible like Natasha that normal women in thirty years not living with their parents. Desired outcome: envious person begins to experience negative emotions such force that his behavior is inappropriate. Psychological law: the stronger the emotions experienced by the man, the harder it is to him to save the selected tactic behavior. If we draw the enemy out of ourselves, our chances of winning increase significantly.

In this case, the victim of envy (in this version - the attacker) should behave in a balanced and unflappable. Its task is to wait when a colleague makes a mistake for real. In addition, the marina can go to the Director General and competently to share with him that she is very concerned about the behavior of Natasha. No charges and recriminations. Just a friendly caring for a colleague and company affairs, which Natasha's unpredictability can cause serious damage. Solution envious rather complicated and messy with the ethical side, however, is quite effective.

Method 3. Indifference

We proceed from the fact that all people live in this world for something creative. Maybe, like Natasha met in order for us to teach tolerance or to show others how to care for loved ones. It is unlikely that we know exactly is it about the people around us. However, we can say with certainty that a positive start is in everyone. If we choose this method, it takes two steps: the first - look for the positive, the second - internally, "letting go" of this man. Well, God bless her, unhappy. Let it flung debris and does not get out of the bins in search of compromising. Receding from her, and, most importantly, stop living with her single life.

She no longer has any effect on your emotional state. You do not jump into any discussion with colleagues or a supervisor. And even in that case, if you say rude tone: "No, you just look at what she has done," replied calmly: "I do not get used to think of it, who does not happen!". In fact, within the serene indifference. You configured not to show, you have inner personal life. This way there is another valuable point. Once comes indifference, as soon as we "cut the cord" and forget about the envious, takes effect psychological law: we cease to be attractive to an aggressor the victim. Envious leave us alone.