Influence of mother's choice chosen
Have you noticed that your partner both externally and in their psychological qualities are very similar to your father. He has the same complexion and eye color, it is active and energetic, just like your father, he prefers the same dishes from it even smells the same perfume. Very often, girls are guided by their fathers when choosing a husband. Most often, this orientation takes place at a subconscious level. Girls are looking for a copy of his father, if they want to duplicate the relationship of their parents. This is common for children from wealthy families. There is nothing unnatural.
But there is another scenario: the influence of mothers on the selection chosen. It is in early childhood is forming your image, practically giving you the right to vote: Choose for you the passion for music, though you really wanted to dance, she advised you to learn from a lawyer, although you wanted to do psychology, and that she insisted on developing your relationship with your son, your friends.
If the choice is made for you mom, you should not just abandon it. To get started you will need to determine whether or not the mother's choice coincides with your hopes and plans for the future or whether your feelings are caused by suggestion of your maternal line, which is confident that he could build your own happiness. First try to understand what a man you'd like to see next to each other, try to draw a portrait of an ideal husband. If you really dream about, so it was like your father, then you are lucky and your opinion coincided with the mother. But if you feel that you would like to connect my life with a completely different person by nature, do not be afraid to announce it to your mom and, above all, herself.
For example, a father - quite soft and flexible, calm and responsive, and you like men strong, rigid, with the character. That's OK, because sometimes we do not want our fate was a copy of the relationship of our parents, we want a different happiness. Let your mom scares your choice, let it hit the alarm and insisting that you are not a couple, but you must remember that the decision to accept you, you ought to choose what is bad for you, and what is good.
Do not be afraid of his boldest ideas, look for the man of her dreams, not a copy of your father because your mother wants so much. But do not rush into a pool with his head, secretly married to the long-haired biker, but that she understands that you want to live in their own way. Do not make hasty actions of a sense of contradiction, which then have to regret it. Remember that you should first become familiar with your vote, it was not necessary then to exclaim: "How you were right, mom!"
