Joint plans for the future
Often, women from relationships built in joint plans for the future . But talking about it on the first date is strictly prohibited. Such conversations can permanently alienate a man. Any hints about your future together with him, what to choose a ring and a dress for a wedding and someone what sex would have a baby. Such talk is extremely negative impact on men's minds. Why do some men extremely afraid of registry offices, believing that because you want to pick up his two main things: freedom and independence. Though they give a woman a chance, but this is only the humble as well as the psychology of men we will never change.
No need for your first meeting to talk about what your kids will be fine, and a beach house where you live, painted in blue. Whatever you want to link the fate of this man, do not rush him to that decision, do not discuss endlessly your overall joint plan of life, not every time he portrays a picture of your future life in all its details, not dopekayte his hints about the registry office or a wedding. So you lose it faster than that have bound to itself. You know men are living a habit - they do not want to change something, they are satisfied with the established way of things, and here you play only a minor role of girlfriend. Of course, in the future they will think about moving your relationship to another stage, but it is too early about this hint.
In general, they do not want to change anything, because everything is new and still undiscovered by itself is not checked, has not been tested. Fear that it might be worse than before, every person. Do not experience fear only irresponsible, unserious people. Male guards, and exerting all kinds of planning for the future and for other reasons. Male guards planning for the future because of the perfidy and commercialism of some women. Men, especially held, as we mentioned in the previous rule, fear that they can use what you want it to do something to get.
Even if you do not have evil plan, but simply want certainty in the relationship, then you may be unfamiliar people misunderstand and interpret everything differently. People simply are not psychologically like any pressure on myself, not like when he was rushed. This is a big blow to the ego when a woman begins to take a man solutions, trying to make him an offer. Another reason why a woman starts to rush the man to hint at the joint plans for the future - when a woman is experiencing loneliness and failure, of trying to catch this, as she believes in "the last car." She starts to behave according to the principle: "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush."
However, the man feels such an attitude toward himself, and he did not want to be "the last car." Who wants to have close to a poor, unfortunate woman? Do not show him that you do not have success with men, and that just can not get married. This will scare even the bravest. We need to create the illusion of happiness and luck, but rather to feel attractive, charming, because if you do consider yourself such, and the surrounding start to think so.
In general, everything that concerns a significant decision, the man wants to resolve itself, you can only help him in this delicate and unobtrusive. And take it that decision only if your relationship will be tested for strength.
