People are often in their daily activities are guided by emotion rather than logic and common sense. In this case, committed a huge number of mistakes and done stupid mass. But in most cases requires very little thought to come to the right decision! Whatever the stressful situation has not occurred, forget about the negative emotions, and then calmly analyze the situation. Accept the worst that can happen, and then start to improve this situation. Must accept that change is impossible. A person can think and act, think and implement their own desires!

He can go creatively to solve any problem ... and hence the change that does not comply with his wishes. If you start to get irritated, worry, etc., does not it mean that you put a cross on their own higher human abilities and descend to an animal level? " Think, but do not panic and act, rather than whining, build and change their lives and the lives of others for the better and not give into the power of primitive emotions! Or you is not on the shoulder?

Classification of problems

Learn how to classify your issues for the following four groups:

priority (ie, vital);

that may be postponed, and it does not cause harmful and irreparable consequences;

a decision which can not happen without your involvement, unless, of course, they can postpone;

which in principle can not be solved by you.

Solve all these problems should be exactly in the order listed. The fourth group of problems should not bother you. If necessary, do all my best, but do not aspire to the result, to achieve that your forces can not. "Do what must be and whether that would be!" Do not forget that your preference is to be the same with your abilities. And do not grasp the solution to the problems that can not be resolved in the circumstances, at any given time, and your existing forces and equipment. If you find yourself in a situation where an important and urgent problem can not be solved by you, switch to the less significant cases. Give yourself installation is not worried about that at this stage can not be performed.

Sequence in solving problems

To protect yourself from a nervous breakdown, try to keep track of unfinished situation. If you feel the pressure of unfinished business, try to reduce their number, please follow these four steps:

1) Realize that have been held hostage to an incomplete situation, which requires its own solutions and vain squandering your energy worries and bothers you live;

2) decide to put in it the point;

3) Reflect on the fact that in your power to make and that it depends on you, find the best possible and rely on themselves;

4) Implement a life plan.

If the first time the situation has not come to its logical conclusion, try to find some more solutions to the problem, but do not leave it unfinished.

Do not attempt to address several issues simultaneously. Remember the golden rule: consistency and comprehensiveness . Cases should be resolved consistently with your full self. Concentrate all their energies to solve problems without spraying on the tasks that can be solved by you later. All your thoughts must refer to solved the problem, not the totality of the things that you need to master.

Unfinished situation

Unfinished situation - it is always a problem, it is your psychological recipient, which deflates your positive energy. Incomplete situation is as meaningless as an unfinished piece. We simply have to find their inner peace, and live in peace with itself. We must draw a line under all the unfinished situation, taking them by forgiving those who provoked, felt responsibility, and stopped to avoid their own guilt. Unfinished situations make history topical, deploying the clock back and bring us a lot of suffering and pain. They forbid us to live the present, bring us back into the past and forced to re-get used to the images that brought us in his time a lot of trouble. The past can not be changed, but it should not be allowed to poison our present. The past is over, with the idea to put up. There is only the present and even future that we are forming now. Therefore, the past need to understand, accept and forgive. Let go of your past and stop worrying about it.

Exercise: The sequence of solving the problem

1.Detalno record that brought you out of balance. What excites you at the moment the most?

2.Opishite your possible moves in a given situation.

3.Find several ways to solve the problem. Stay on that version, which, in your opinion, would benefit most.

4.Nemedlenno begin to implement this decision in life.