Learn to assess men
One of the main causes of failed marriages is that people are not aware of those who marry. We meet strangers who are wonderful, but we often marrying strangers, which leads to unhappiness. Better in time to stop dating than sign a bad marriage. The best surprise of family life - is the lack of surprises. When a man intends to marry a particular woman, he evaluates it as a future wife. Learn how to evaluate the men you are! Do not be ashamed to evaluate men as future husbands.
You may worry that the estimate is too sober, but far worse if it is unconscious, the irrational, random and incomplete. Grind their ability to assess male and use it, choosing to have, for whom would like to get married. Do not open your feelings to a stranger. You're sure to inquire before you entrust a large sum of a person who does not know. And unless your feelings are not as expensive? Trust, but verify!
It is unwise to associate themselves with a man out of pity for him, or thought that will be able to alter it.
Look at the other half from the standpoint of the theorist's funny. If you want to make the right choice and a good marriage have become more sociable and, if possible, pragmatic. Remember Muravyova heroine, who became "the most charming and attractive." This is actually a strategy. And success comes quickly to those who can make friends, not random proverb that "friendship - a love without sex" ...
Ask a woman what she wants from men. Perhaps she will answer specifically. Might want to man was tall, handsome, energetic, intelligent, rich, smart, respectable, talented, educated, with an interesting past. Ask the same woman that she can offer him in return, and usually she would answer: "Myself."
"Myself" - a pathetic, vague answer. Evaluate themselves well against their rivals. To have success with men, should know that you can offer him, and be able to say about it. If your mood - "I just want to be me!" Think about what happens when you go into a cafe and order a cup of coffee. You do not expect that it will present, because "this cup of coffee for me." You know that your no "I" will not give you a free cup of coffee. Just being yourself and no more taking, not preuspeesh in life, much less get a husband, he dreamed of.
"We can not wait for favors from nature!" This motto Michurina of biology classrooms is a genius and is suitable to our problem, to find happiness in the family. The man, whom you love and are striving to become your own, just grab the initiative. Hardly a man of your dreams appear on the doorstep without any effort on your part. Imagine for a moment that you want to become a gold producer. You take care of gear, choose a place where there is a possibility of finding gold. Let's say you do not know the rules of intelligence, but you do not hope to find nuggets in your own garden, vegetable garden! Do not imagine that someone rang the doorbell and say: "I know you are looking for gold. Keep, I brought it."
Unfortunately, the search darling is not so different from the wash of golden sand, but many believe that one magic moment when they accidentally meet the perfect man, a prince charming will come and marry him. Perhaps you're thinking: all that is required - is patience. Mol, fate, and the stove will find that the restriction is not obedesh horse, you can sit on their hands. In the end - women's council in the kitchen and domestic cat for company. Wake up! No man will knock on your door and asks: "Here lives my dear?" I would like to marry her. " Our strategy is sensual. Love is too important to give her the occasion, and you're too old to believe in fairy tales of Cinderella. If you want the benefits of life, then you need to do some work. This also applies to finding a husband.
Forget the old myth that you can not find love when looking for it. It is only necessary to know how and where to look. Many women believe in this myth, once dressed up at a party and met no one, and then met with the favorite, dressed only in shorts and a T-shirt. This does not mean that we should not look for love. Just the thing to learn how to seek it in another way. You can search for love and find her. Why not make life so enjoyable as possible? Your goal may be a path from suffering to joy. Happiness is the assessment of your success. Although important, of course, love.
