Man does not like when a woman attempts on his freedom
Remember the wisdom of the people: listen to what women say and do the opposite. Here on this principle lived most of the male population. They consider any advice from the fair sex assault on their freedom and thereby forcing us to use manipulation to get her. To understand why we women use manipulation, we must proceed from the axiom that men - being freedom. Man does not like it when a woman attempts to his freedom . Any attempt on their freedom - whether it be returning from work at exactly the specified time, his wife, planning his leisure time, a ban on meeting with friends or some other condition - is disrespectful to him as a person and an expression of distrust that humiliates and insults his dignity .
Your criticisms and advice forced him to act differently than you would have wanted it, he deliberately, as a teenager, does everything you need luck just to approve their own freedom. As a result, a conflict which eventually resolved. It can be resolved in several ways.
Method 1 st - "totalitarian": one of the parties shall be: it can either be male or female, depending on what turns out to be stronger - action or reaction. Occurs roles: the struggle for power wins the fittest.
Method 2 nd - did not agree on the characters: both can not stand, the conflict is allowed parting.
Way to the third - "manipulative": woman takes reins of a hidden rule, and the man does not lose the feeling of freedom, believing that he was committing his acts of goodwill, although the fact influenced by his wife / girlfriend.
We present several ways to hide control male:
1.Do not eat imperative (imperative), referring to the man (go there, then do not do so-and so on). This wording is a request or the Board has always perceived the man as an attempt to manage it, an attempt on his freedom. You can use the request-question:
-Dear, I started a cleaning service, could you help me? (Instead of: "Propylesos in the house and wash dishes.)
Or a rhetorical question:
-Tomorrow I'll hold on the job, do not even know who will take the child out of kindergarten? (Instead of: "Tomorrow take away a child from kindergarten.")
2.Pridumayte alternative. Your darling is going for the next Sabantuy with friends. Forbid him not this an ultimatum, just offer another option for leisure. For example, invite them to the premiere of the film, which he had long wanted to see, or make "fantastic" dinner, which he just will not give up. By choosing such an alternative, you should intrigue a man to offer him something good, that he had no doubt made the right choice, to exchange "beer" party at a memorable evening by candlelight.
3rd Best thing to do, so that your beloved himself came to the right decision.
Your task - to tell him, hint. For example, you really do not want to go on a picnic with his friends. Do not try to persuade him to abandon the idea, expressing his desire to the forehead. Woo, that he himself has expressed a desire not to go. You can complain about in the middle of a conversation that the weather during this weekend will be rainy, that preparations for the picnic was not good enough and that the place generally chosen wrong. Best of all, if these arguments will it inspire not only you, but someone from your company, then he believes in the objectivity of these arguments and he abandons his idea.
