Men make love in silence
Psychologists say that men need some time to switch from one activity to another. And all this because of the strange device male brain. For example, when a man makes love, touches a woman looks at her, he uses one side of the brain, and when he wants to talk to a woman about his feelings, he should turn the other hemisphere, so that men make love in silence . In women, both hemispheres work simultaneously.
I do not know ... with psychologists argue, of course, difficult. They have sophisticated research on the complexity of the monstrous apparatus herd mice. We mere mortals - just common sense and experience. Just in case we leave to the psychologist alone. That is partly agree with him. Probably really hard for us to switch. (Although there are men who speak in bed all sorts of harsh words, name-calling a woman and so on. How did they manage to switch? "Or they have brains differently arranged?)
In short, to say in bed is difficult not only and not just because it is difficult to switch. And because the chatter seems rather silly exercise. Well what can I say? How do I do with you all right? As you are beautiful and sexy? No brainer that this is so. Otherwise I would not be here. We've both? If everything is obvious, why talk about it? Nonsense. Words for us - it is just information. Specific and accurate. If we are in the beginning of a relationship said they love you, a priori, it is believed that repeating it is no longer needed. You are already well aware of. But if the situation changes, then you need new information for you to hear: I do not love you. Plain and simple ...
But it's not all. Not only do we feel stupid fact of talking in bed. We are still terribly tongue-tied. At more or less acceptable compliment can one man out of a hundred. For the rest of aerobatics is: "You're looking good today." And that each time he would say this? You first ask him to shut up. We fully understand that it is not Cicero. And do not want to be provided in a silly position when the tongue slips endless banality. After all, despite our tongue-tie, are critical to his oratorical skills as we can. And the result is a nasty situation: we know that the woman loves the ears, but we fear that we will laugh at our clumsy "I feel good with you." And nothing is more original and clever to give birth can not even in bed ...
That many men say tender and affectionate words directed at life? None. But already in bed when the head is not that busy ... more than convinced - men who have well-hung tongue easily switch hundreds of times during the sexual act between business and conversation. And the hemisphere has nothing to do with it. We just do not want to look stupid in your eyes. Even in his own too. Out of this situation is simple: write down on paper about it, who would like to hear from her man, and ask him to learn them by heart. I guarantee that it will spill nightingale.
After sex, men also do not want to talk
De Angelis and others like it offer an explanation for this phenomenon: "Men seem reserved and aloof after sex because they're trying again to pull yourself together after being allowed emotions to get out during orgasm." Oh, those women! Again, some strange emotions ... When the orgasm erupt outwards not emotions, but something else. (Well, so, by the way.) The same closed and detached men are after:
• Sauna room with a good broom and a bottle of beer,
• intensive negotiations that culminated in a successful transaction
• five rounds in the ring,
• winning their favorite team in a tight match.
Not closed and detached happen are we after sex, but tired, relaxed and happy. In such a state does not pull to discuss the nuances of relationships. Generally speaking you do not want. And moving, too. That would offer you a bottle of beer ... When a person is relaxed, the idea of an activity (whether mental or physical) makes him disgusted. You, too, not to sex after a long day at work, in shops, at the stove. What are you talking about? That's right, you're tired. Here we are tired. For us, sex is not only fun but also quite a big exercise.
Ubiquitous scientists calculated that a man spends during sexual intercourse as much calories as a boxer spends over three rounds in the ring. Those who are in the ring was not, I will say that it is very, very much. A load on the cardiovascular system? And on the respiratory? On muscle? Logging easy ... And you want to talk. I think that if men spoke as much as you wanted, on anything except talk, they would not have enough forces. Before the talk, during a talk after talk ... how much energy is there! Then easier to talk instead of ...
In addition, this drive was eerie, and suddenly vanished! On the site it formed a kind of emptiness. While not accumulate new Silenko and a new attraction. And how can you talk, kissing, hugging, when the inside completely empty? No there is nothing. There is not even the love that we may have experienced. And interest in the females. All of this disappears. At one point, as if by magic (pardon the comparison). Now fold the physical fatigue and a feeling of emptiness. Do you think there will at such hands, the desire to talk and kiss, ask after sex question: "What are you thinking now?" - Leads to a state of complete stupor any man. Yes, anything we do not think. We relaxed a rest. My head still and empty as an abandoned attic. We do not think:
• As I was alright with you.
• How are you beautiful.
• How do I love thee.
• I want to carry you in my arms.
• I want to marry you.
• This was the best sex of my life.
• You are unique and unrepeatable.
What can we somehow think:
• If only she did not ask what I think now.
• It would be good to drink beer holodnenkogo.
• Still blowjob she does not so much.
• Brutally sleepy.
I do not know whether to blame for this emotion, we splashed out during orgasm, and whether there is a desire to control themselves (as claimed by some authors), but one thing I can say for sure: fatigue rife.
