My dear, kind, gentle, very beautiful, affectionate, caring, attentive ... always understand, listen, ikakoy be hopeless nor was the situation will only correct way to solve the problem. These words are so many, many others can say only about one, but the most dear person on earth - of course, about my mother. Her love, kindness and consideration truly knows no bounds. So it has decided to nature (by the way, too, Mother), that every woman is born to bring into the world their own kind, to love them, cherish and care for them. Not an easy task, so you can not with perfect confidence that all, without exception, to cope with it brilliantly.

Life is - interesting, but incredibly complex thing, and it often happens that the medal turned upside down. In this chapter we will talk to you about what is often a mother's love and care knows no borders, beyond, and then the family idyll turns to tragedy. We have you painted a portrait of the Mother of the ideal. This image is formed is quite easy, because life gives many such examples: the embodiment of kindness, selflessness, endless work and worry for the happiness of their children. And yet the perception of the new world, with some open her eyes a child growing up in her arms. Along with this it opens up many new and in itself, those qualities which she had never suspected. And most importantly, the discovery of other people, a woman starts to perceive their relation to her child: that they bear him the benefit or harm; amozhet be, they generally want to encroach on the sacred - in the sacrament of communion between mother and child?

Very sharp and relevant in all times the issue - a contradiction in the distribution of roles between mother and daughter. Ideally, the mother - a leading, mentor, rukovoditelnitsa children. And the children - led by the performers it will and mandates, unconditionally, always and everywhere. But who would argue that each of us wanted to have a mother who, without losing credibility, nor love his daughter would become her assistant, would take it for what it really is, even if it does not correspond to the requirements of the mother. In general, that a mother who would not only be able to teach, but also learn from her daughter.

My best friend - my mother, even when I was in school, I was aware it could boast of this in front of friends. Unfortunately, we were living without a father, and on it lay a difficult task: to build relationships in our little family so I did not feel the lack of reliability. In modern life, it's not an easy task, but my mother coped with it brilliantly. I've never been afraid to attack the next day because I was sure: in any situation, no matter what happens, Mom will always be able to find a way out of this situation. I always felt close to her is a safe, but at the same time fragile shoulder and knew how different our communion with her girlfriends from communicating with their moms. Particularly sharp this contrast is manifested in adolescence. It was at this time of misunderstanding between parents and children reaches its climax. Children, believing that they are practically adults and, therefore, need for independence, began to demand greater freedom from their parents. Well parents, in turn, assuming that freedom and independence at this age, nothing good will not lead, set more stringent limits. My own mom has become my true friend. Instead of something absolutely prohibited, it leaves the choice for me, explaining the pros and cons of various actions. I could tell her all her innermost secrets, tell us about the first feelings and frustrations, met with the support and understanding, and if necessary, to gain valuable advice.

So who should be the mother to the child? Teacher, mentor? Perhaps, but unlikely, because this is the kindergartens, schools, institutions ... counselor? Probably, but do not bother whether the overage child to listen to boring and not always relevant, in his opinion, guidance and advice, especially when the time comes and it irresistibly strives for autonomy and independence, and my mother thinks he is getting out of control, such a fragile and defenseless, but life is full of dangers at every turn .... Girlfriend? But the crony relationship very soon they will be responsible for the disappearance of the very brink of the age of respect, which is essential for mutual understanding between the daughter and mother. Therefore, speaking about such a friendship, we are referring to the trust and understanding between the daughter and mother, and not the fear of being misunderstood and rejected.

So what do you do? By hook or by crook to keep my child from this world with a view to child was the embodiment of that ideal, which saw his mother when the child was in her womb, and not allow him to err and make mistakes, or from the watch as he becomes the creator and arbiter of his fate, even if unsuccessful, by trial and error? What do you think it is possible friendship between mother and daughter? In an ideal - of course, but in the lives of almost every mother strives to maintain between themselves and the child's distance - and this boundary, in its view, justified by life experience, position, duty to the child of unreasonable, out of which should get people - if not perfect, then closest to the ideal. That such arguments, operates a mother instructing her daughter senseless on the right path, and can be really, everything is not like she is trying to teach? At different historical stages of many philosophers, psychologists, and philosophers from different countries thought about this issue and concluded that it is not always the mother acts are dictated by common sense - and often they go beyond the subconscious mind, which sometimes presents not too pleasant surprises.

On the other hand, how to protect her daughter from deception, from the mistakes that are not so rare in real life? Not so everything is difficult: it is only time to tell the girls about the secret and intimate, and teach them to distinguish themselves in the voice of the blood from the voice of the soul. Ability to understand his own nature, is driven by what she desires, when in a hurry for a date, no one ever, no professional women not to teach a better mother. All the classic signs of love can lead to mistakes and errors. For example: curiosity about the unknown circumstances and feelings, the desire to assert its maturity, vainglorious pleasure to show off to her friends a spectacular fan, and sometimes even selfish intent. In all of this will help you understand just mom.