On someone else's misfortune, happiness can not be built
Sometimes just to enter into relations already doomed. This happens when you vending guy is "temporarily unfit for service of love." Would love can be temporarily unfit, you will be amazed. Itself! Imagine the following situation. Seeing an attractive young man, you found the courage to approach him and get acquainted. Everything went smoothly, you began to communicate gradually from general to going to the more personal. You are adding into the conversation more playful music and, naturally flirting, you begin to figure out what is happening at your friend on the personal front?
And then, like a bolt from the blue, he announces to you that he has a permanent girlfriend, if not his wife! Or that he had just recovered from the separation / divorce with someone you love and not yet ready for a new relationship. Of course, it's a shock. Most of the girls from such statements are absolutely lost and do not know how to continue the conversation. Should I seek a young man, despite his "limited availability"? If yes, how?
Generic advice to be here, of course, can not. Sometimes people languish for years in a relationship that on its last legs breathe and stay more on habit and fear, than on true feelings. In this case, familiarity with you and farewell to the hated girl seems almost noble cause. Sometimes a man, consisting in a serious relationship, just wants to diversity. And here you decide whether you want to be that most "diversity". And sometimes young people just consider themselves "too polite" to refuse to dating a girl.
To decide how to proceed, it is necessary first to find out the motivation of young people. Why did he agree to meet you, if he has a steady girlfriend? To clarify this important information is sufficient to ask: "Tell me, your girlfriend will not mind the fact that we communicate with you? Or have you decided not jealous of each other? "
The first option - he does not plan to you any love and communicates purely human terms, as an interesting conversationalist. In this case, it is likely to respond with something like: "What is this? We are with you just talk. " The second option - his love is breathing its last and he is at heart ready for a new relationship. Then he will likely tell the truth. Admits that his previous relationship are not the same as before, and probably on the verge of rupture. In this case, you may say, give the green light.
And finally, the third option, he just decided to have fun, to diversify their intimate life. In this case, he had already warned you that he has a permanent girlfriend, so do not give you false hope. Only you decide whether you want to be fun. Do not want to pass for a moralist. But still every time you get acquainted with someone then boyfriend, remember that everything done by us and returned to us. In a strange misfortune, happiness can not be built. Think, if you need a headache associated with the beating of another man, when there are so many others, free, beautiful and sexy?
