Phrases can ruin relationships
Women's repertoire is rather homogeneous, especially if it is used in the art of persuasion partner. So beware, using once again the standard phrase, says German psychologist Alexander Berger. After all, these "frazochki" can kill your love.
Phrases can ruin relationships :
1. "I need a serious talk with you about our relationship ..."
Certainly, after such a statement all your partner prefers to spend the next night at work or with friends than in your society. And no wonder, because at the time, how do you pronounce "about our) relationship," he heard "about you." And it is in principle true, but it rarely means to him something good, if such a conversation takes place, the partner will deliberately block any criticism. Therefore, wanting to still figure out the relationship ought to start talking differently. At least this way: "I think our life together now is not as good as before. What do you think about this?" Change only one sentence, and the man will not feel compelled to defend himself.
2. "If you really loved me you would ..."
Your attempt to get something from a partner is guaranteed to fail if he will treat your comments as a joke, a misunderstanding, or even provocation. So he will not have a shadow of doubt that we ought to change its behavior. If your words will be perceived by them seriously, he will come to a conclusion, it seems that he will never be able to meet your requirements. Then the logical question arises: is there any sense in your future relationship? After all, he somehow think he really tries to make you happy.
3. "Look at his friend. That is a true example of ..."
Of course, your partner is incredibly happy that you like his friend. But more than this "ideal" you will use as an icon, so much the worse. Your educational appeals are unlikely to yield the desired result, because once it wakes up wounded pride, and he will throw you on the move: "Well, go to your beauty! .." Therefore it is better to discard any comparison of his partner is not in his favor.
4. "You always do as you please, and never, as I ask."
This phrase a woman indicates that the partner, in its view, does nothing out of what she had requested. You are afraid to speak openly? But men often do not realize about the thoughts of his mistress and is forced to defend himself from her remarks with "always" and "never" long tirades. Therefore, wishing to achieve a specific result, forget about the criticism. Make the best reasonable offer positive. For example, instead of "You always throw your dirty linen in the apartment," say: "Put please him immediately into a bowl."
5. "You could not have been more attentive to me in bed?"
In the fight against dirty linen plain speaking creates real miracles. If we are talking about sex, your words should be less straightforward. Remember: many men derive their confidence from the success of the intimate affairs. And the most innocuous proposal from the perspective of women to men may mean: "She hinted that I was in bed - Dummy." Much more effective to stress that sexual life gives you a special treat. Do not focus on his mistakes. Compliment your lover, and he will be ready for you at all.
6. "I'm so fat (skinny )..."
Of course, as a response to women expect from the beloved rebuttal: "Oh, no treasure, you look great." But remember: men do not like women whining about the shortcomings of the figure. In addition, the mention of the shortcomings it attracts attention to them. Their problems better to discuss with cosmetics, a friend or a mirror in the bathroom.
7. "The flowers you're going to appease me?" What happened? "
Did not you complain loudly that your partner is so rarely gives you flowers? So - he has heard your wishes! Swallow and enjoy the confidence of his attention. After all, a bouquet of flowers does not necessarily lies a misdemeanor.
8. "With you is useless to speak ..."
You categorically states that he never listens to you and generally not able to understand. What does he do? Indeed, there is nothing. Give the "dumb" word. Eliminate from their repertoire such proposals - the killer of good relations.
To the heart kiss - to the devil send? So, you're going to get married. Maybe go to the registrar, may prefer to marry or just dwell together without any extra conventions - in any case we have in mind that you have chosen the one and only companion. You love him madly, ready to be with him all his life and firmly believe that never, no way and under no circumstances will exchange it for someone else ... And it you? Do not you never come up with the idea: "What if I change it?"
Why is it so important to you - is another matter. To begin, we want to offer you the most to know something about your chosen one: Will your companion to keep you faithful or not? Of course, some predict the future any relations at their very beginning is not so simple. Sometimes, the most liberated, in the opinion of an outside observer, the relations are accompanied by complete candor and boundless confidence of spouses to each other, and apparently perfect couple sometimes keeps a secret from each other a long list of "Walking to the left." Nevertheless, some personality traits of your chosen one suggest whether he kept an intimate fidelity.
If the age difference between you is low, you're easier to reach understanding in principle and as a consequence of sex. A more in this field of relations of mutual understanding, the less traction, "to run to the left" to someone who maybe understands the secret desires. When a big age difference is very likely a "conflict of generations."
If your vote needs sex small - in his bed, there will be many wives. On the side will not pull. You have enough of what he can give? Or after some time will remember most about the "left turn"?
Closed, uncommunicative man with you, then met with so much difficulty (unless you are acquainted with it), what other women are already here! A bright, sparkling personality will certainly need new impressions, including a new woman - you just do not have enough opportunities to create him a variety! But only you can decide which of these two types will be interesting to live.
If you do not match your biorhythms, it creates enough tension in the dialogue, at least initially, for example, you are most active in the evening and at night, and your spouse - in the morning, or vice versa. At what time will you have sex, to have fun both? Of course, in certain endeavors, and in this case, we can achieve harmony, but often it happens that a man, not wanting to expend energy on changes in their own family, just looking for that same harmony in the party.
If a spouse - an only child, and even from incomplete families, be prepared for the fact that his character is usually a feeling of permissiveness coupled with the lack of vital model of lasting marriage. With all its consequences ...
If he has changed his former girlfriend with you, it might at first flatter your vanity. But who can guarantee that soon the place of the former girlfriend did not prove to yourself? In general, be that as it may, you decide what exactly the husband to choose. And what of his character would you prefer to ignore, and with what can not tolerate. In any case, remake the adult is very difficult, so do not expect that at some of his "bad" quality you wag at first hand: then, they say, face it. Not without reason in the popular children's book advises: "Before we get into somewhere, think, and how are you there vylezesh? .."
