Today, everyone has an idea of what should be a family. No specific standards or samples were not available. But this in itself speaks about what is going on the reformation of the family. Whether we like it or not, but the modern family is constructed somewhat differently than in the past century. Domostroy, a clear division of roles and status of each family member has lost its usefulness. Along with changes in social life has changed and the family. In place of rigid control and submission come the other principles of relations between man and woman, between parents and children.

You can make the assumption that the family itself, as a concept is at the stage when the old dogmas and traditions lost their meaning, and new ones have formed. The position of his wife and children in the family was another. If before his wife and children were considered an application for a man, but today we can say that sex has ceased to be a determining factor in the primacy of the family. And many people do believe that there can be no rule, and there must be a voluntary agreement about who is the spouse of any issue can take decisions for yourself, at least, taken the discussion and exchange of views. The woman was socially and financially independent from men, public opinion does not condemn the participation of women in various walks of life equally with men. So what feminists have done their work.

But now they can rest. All is well until the moment when it comes to raising children. To hear some opinions about the dangers of female education, I want to ask - that fathers had more time to devote to children? Very doubtful. Another thing that was a cult of his father, the breadwinner, which is to be feared and respected. Perhaps partly this approach solves some problems, but gave rise to many others. Now the father is hardly made to fear. It remains to teach children to respect him. What is more difficult because you can not get respect at all. But this should think not only mother but also her father. And now we come to the most important thing - what place the child in the modern family? " It's very simple to say that they are full members of the family. And this is not true. They are still younger and did not always want to understand why you need to listen to parents. Previously, it was easier - they could make, and the community supports the right of parents. Now more and more talk about the freedom of the child.

But of what kind of freedom? On freedom to do what you want? Or the one that recognized need? And as the child will understand the limits of this necessity, or desirability within these limits? Little man by virtue of their inexperience can not realize such things. But there is no doubt that parents should have an impact on the child. In some educational benefits are encouraged to develop trade, monetary and exchange relationship with the child. Parents who believe such a relationship justified, I want to ask: "What will make your child when you have nothing to give him?". So it's not that. Maybe compulsion? But it is in our society often does not give effect or backfire - teenage rebellion and a complete nihilism. Only one solution - the respect and trust. It is difficult, but the only true. Think of yourself - as a child we knew more, they felt, how we perceive the parents.

Parents of children in the family is seen as subordinate, as the object of adoration or worship, or how his work, which exists to meet the expectations of parents. And if you try again, just like human beings to realize that parents given under the wing of the younger, but the one who should be treated equally, and the purpose of education - to make it so, not easy to achieve obedience as such. Children who feel such an attitude, at least, rely on their parents. A child can follow his advice, to model its response without evidence, and it replaces a missing his own experience. Only in one case. If a parent enjoys the confidence of the child. And it will happen, if the parents have the courage to understand that the child - is a mirror, and little demand from him respect and trust needed to be with him very honest and trustworthy. Parents who use this respect and trust of children, serve them by example. But this is the hardest thing - to become so, how would like to see your own child.