Respect the personal space of the beloved
Another extreme - it is, on the contrary, nothing forbidding, struggling to try to occupy all his thoughts, feelings, free time. Of molestation, even a very cleverly disguised as a delicacy, every man is ready to hang. Frankly, that this great mistake, I have sinned myself, when there was a student of journalism. Raised in the belief that the press - the fourth power, I wonder why I decided to get this same power over the mind of my beloved. With the stubbornness of this shark pen clock I got out of his own questions. I was interested in everything: what he thinks when he sees breasts Salma Hayek in the movie "From Dusk Till Dawn"? What does he feel when, after a vodka drink beer?
Why did his mother while watching a hockey game? Why in the preferred sex position "woman on top? And so on to infinity. I wanted to TO REALLY know him, to comprehend the incomprehensible nature of men, to penetrate his thoughts. Why then I was sure of my behavior, he will relax, feel that I can trust and we will be really close. First, he answered me. Then he began to snarl: "Again, these tricky questions!" In the end, we just had a falling out. The last straw was my timid:
- What do you think now, my dear?
What cute bellowed: "I drink beer and watch football! What am I, in your opinion, I think? I do not think about anything! I never think about anything! ".
In a word, intimacy and trust - it is certainly good, but everyone needs their personal space. Respect the personal space of the beloved . You did and she did not want him to know all your secrets, fears, feelings, and so pestered with questions and secretly read your diaries. Well, when in a relationship is easy understatement. A man should remain unpredictable and a bit mysterious to you. Quickly solve all mysteries, you just lose interest in him.
All of the above will be used against you!
Sometimes the man himself is not against the spiritual outpourings and mutual revelations. If this is your case, I hope you appreciated his determination and the right use of it! Well, what do girls like men sometimes catch on the hook of trust, like a fish! Some with great pleasure, like zapravskim police are trying to use all the words boyfriend against him.
In a similar situation got my colleague Arina. At first, she has used all his journalistic skills to elicit a boyfriend Arseniy all about his ex-girlfriend, failed romances, successful and unsuccessful sexual experiences, in short, everything that could be useful for further torture. Arseny, revealing the soul, naively believed that Arina interested in the history of his previous novels just out of idle curiosity or the desire to know him better.
Silly! Arina, methodically collecting all the ex files, start pester favorite chicanery and jealousy in the past and caustic jokes about his ex. Arseny began to intercede for the former lovers, for that Arina blew a new portion of blame and jealousy.
- It was as if she wanted to get away from me the recognition that all my past relationships have been a terrible mistake for which I must round the clock to repent and ask for her forgiveness - says Arseny - she wanted me to make fun of their ex to compare " what misery it was before with my current relationship. Perhaps she wanted to hear it - the only beautiful, intelligent girl with whom I've met in my life, and the rest were ugly and complete fools. But it is not so! I am not my fault that my ex was nice, good-looking, and left me mostly pleasant memories.
So be sensible, do not use your boyfriend said against him. If he refuses to talk about past relationships or do not want to say anything bad about the former, it is you should only make us happy. Hence, it is noble and respectful to women. That is, if you suddenly parted, you can be absolutely quiet - he is about you not say rude words! And, in my opinion, this is a wonderful quality for a man of your dreams!
