Round Trip Child
Closed kids. Who are they and what to do with them? Child's desire to communicate is made up of several components:
β desire to communicate
β knowledge of how to communicate
β ability to apply their knowledge into practice.
Closed child does not know how, and most importantly, does not want to communicate. Him so well. And in this it differs from a shy child who really wants to talk, wants to talk, but can not use his ability to communicate in practice. Closed kids usually are those from birth. They are distinguished by increased anxiety, emotional instability, tendency to exaggerate their fears and suspiciousness.
These children are extremely reluctant to make contact with strangers, poorly adapted to new conditions. They - my mother's "tail" and very poorly tolerate separation from his mother and other close relatives. Changing teacher in a garden can cause them lasting anxiety and concern. Expand your social circle of a closed baby, often visit public places. Teach him not to be afraid of an unfamiliar situation, and try to impress upon him the idea that a change of scenery is not bad, and vice versa - he can acquire new experiences and meet many new and interesting people.
Try to help your child overcome the stiffness and self-doubt, be near him to feel your presence. Hold his hand and stroked on the back - it will feel much more confident. Serve your child a personal example - become themselves actively communicating with a man. Walk in guests, invites guests to themselves. Try to keep your baby feeling with your friends and their children "at ease". Teach your child to think of myself as a positive character, teach him to know and do not be shy of its merits, encourage him, teach to talk about himself in the presence of other people.
Put yourself in your child. Do you want to do anything if you never praise, but only criticize, but luck is perceived as a matter of course? Even if you criticize fairly, you will still lose interest. Child, especially the small and humble, praise is necessary as air. In his tiny life, he has not acquired more benchmarks, which could independently assess how much progress he has made and what it would have been proud. Yes, and what little shy little mouse can achieve? What he has learned to read independently? So all they can. He has never taken his exams, never finished college, did not become an expert ... so cool how he could be proud of?
Therefore, it should be proud of, simply must, we - his parents. We must impress upon him the confidence in his power, he should firmly know that mommy and daddy did not love him for some achievements there, but for the fact that he's just they have. Praise the child for anything, just like that. Strangely enough, such "baseless" praise helped him gain ground and become more confident. Be attentive to his little shy hedgehog. These children are extremely insecure and impressionable. Every careless word, a rude gesture, inattention sharp sting dig into their consciousness and long and hard tortured them for weeks, months, years ...
You must be willing to what your child does not turn into a sort of "shirt-guy" for one day. Overcoming shyness - a long and hard work, which will require from you a lot of effort, imagination and patience. And most importantly - believe in your baby! " Together with you, he should believe in themselves, in that it is waiting for a bright future, full of new discoveries and successes, and then all you get.
