Person who can not truly and fully love himself, can not be completely happy and experiencing some difficulties to get other people to love him. Should not be confused self-love with narcissism and selfishness. Love of self and full acceptance of himself with all his strengths and weaknesses - a sign of a harmonious personality, devoid of internal conflicts. Narcissistic focused only on themselves people expect and demand attention from others, despite the fact that they can impress the people who love only themselves, really deep down feel their inferiority and inadequacy. Their behavior is primarily intended to ensure that due attention of others to raise their self-esteem and get rid of feelings of worthlessness.

It is hard to find someone who would be completely satisfied with all his traits and deeds. The image itself is part of the world model. It is a collection of stereotypical thinking, formed during the time of your life in human society. From early childhood, you said that something good and something bad, to assess your qualities, actions and deeds. Over time, that important for you to encourage people, you are considered good, and that they disapproved of - bad. If "good", from your point of view, you have proved much more you treat yourself more positive feeling successful and prosperous. If you think your flaws outweigh the advantages, it will not add you the satisfaction and confidence in himself. Moreover, any situations that indirectly remind you of something that you believe in a "bad", that once aroused in other condemnation or disapproval, he immediately will launch an anxiety or frustration.

People in the legacy of the animals went to the invisible "radar", a kind of sixth sense that allows you to subconsciously recognize the sensations coming from the man. If people feel insecure, unworthy of love and good relations, it is his feeling about the proverb "The thief hat off" on an intuitive level, is transmitted to other people, and they treat him accordingly. Anyone who really feels for his sincere love, as it signals the others that he is being that he is worthy of love and can love myself.

Of course this is mainly attributable to communicate with normal civilized people. Gang drugged teenagers attackers on the street at a lonely passer-by, indifferent to his self-perception, and in your community there will always be fixated on its problems people unable to perceive coming from other mood and react to them, but in most cases still your perception of yourself in significant impact on relationships with people.