Most men realize that on their shoulders the task to provide the younger generation a good life, nourish it and protect, and the matter is not even the instinct, as most four-legged pets males do not take an active part in caring for their offspring, with some exceptions. Therefore, still very good, if your man does not limit his involvement in the role of the tribal children of the manufacturer. But, as you know, just to protect and nourish little, it is necessary that the man took an active part in the upbringing of children, from birth.

All this is true, perhaps you might say, but just try to explain to the representative of the male species! Yes, often the man does not feel anything but irritation when a child comes up to him to talk, while his woman is only a sad sigh, remembering the stories of the wonderful fathers who spend a lot and, most importantly, happy to deal with his offspring ... and you start attending various depressing thoughts like: maybe it's because of the genre fiction? Or - horror of horrors! - Your husband does not love owl own kids? There is no such representatives male species exist in reality and in your power to create something similar from you own a pet with the right training.

 And your man loves his offspring no less than you, just it's hard to express it, and your job as a housewife and mother - to help him. So, how can we teach two-legged pet, not only patiently, but even with joy to communicate with the younger generation? The reason that representatives of the male species reluctantly come into contact with children, as we have already found out is that they feel as if they do not need. Of course, when it comes to choice, pay attention to seed or watch football and relax, read a newspaper, lie under the car, they prefer the latter. Tell your two-legged pet that you do without his help in bringing up children well, can not do, and he will blossom like the May rose. Also add that the offspring all the time requires a dad, because he is interesting, fun, exciting and even fun. Your pet will love to feel indispensable, and to maintain this status, he will work more closely and continuously in contact with the younger generation, what you wanted.

Unfortunately, it often happens that, realizing the importance of communicating with children, household pet is not aware at the same time the need to maintain patience and calm in this very communion. Yes, you are owned by the representative of the male species is no longer shrugs of irritation from the teenager who approached him and limped kid and not ignore it, but nevertheless their communion often ends with childish tears, or general discontent and conflict. How to do the same in these cases?Teach a man to communicate with the kids! But first, perhaps, say, how to act should not be.

Do not criticize his father in the presence of children

In no case can arrange disassembly with his pet in the presence of the younger generation, because there is no better way to worsen their already not very good relations. The fact is that it not only undermines the authority of the father in the eyes of posterity, as we have already said, but part of the negativity, throw you on the two-legged pet, it is automatically transferred to the child, because the conflict arose because of it. Such is the psychology, and from it there is no escape, moreover, it can always be considered when taming.

I understand and share your desire to immediately calm the offended child, but this process should unfold according to the following scenario. You cuddle the child and her husband yell something like: "Look what you've done again, and which of your father!", But this time the child repeats to you: "Bad, bad!" My advice: once away; representative of the younger generation the field of battle, his reassurance, explaining that the pope did not want to offend him, he just really tired or had a headache. Naturally, this should not vilify your pet and generally disparage him in the eyes of a child, dropping, as they say, through the floor.

At the same time, trying by all means to support the authority of the father, not at all justify it and blame for what happened his offspring: "You can see that Dad is not in the spirit, then why come to him?" After all, your child needs protection and support from your side! Oh, it's not an easy task, you sigh, to resolve conflicts between fathers and children, and even so that anyone not doing the wrong. Indeed, this is not an easy task, but who, if not you will take it on yourself?

Talk quietly

There are two unwritten rules when dealing with the offspring: not to raise rates and do not engage in physical abuse under any circumstances, and you are well aware of, and your pet, by the way, too. So why does he breaks them all the time? There may be many reasons, but none of them can not serve as justification for such actions. Nevertheless, we call the most common arguments of representatives of the male species. First, the pet can tell you that he himself brought up by such methods, and nothing grew well. This is a very common occurrence when a model of behavior learned in the family of parents, adult children often carry on his family.

How did I do? I strongly recommend you to criticize the family life father and mother as parents - the people closest, and any, even a fair, tactful in the form of severe criticism in their address can be viewed by your two-legged pet as an insult, especially if he is in an inflated state . By the way, I hope, do not even need to remind you that any educational conversations, including on communication with children, should be done when your tender and affectionate beast to let off steam from his nostrils, hides its claws, and its bared teeth return to normal - in other words, when he calms down and begins to slightly povilivat tail.

As for parents, then I suggest you select the next tactic. Nobody, of course, does not call you crack up that is forces practiced their parenting practices, but we need to express proper respect to their point of view and offer your pet to go otherwise, on his way, eventually you are independent and self-identity. Most likely two-legged pet, living on your pet's situation, listen to these words, because men love to feel self-reliant and independent, and who, if not you know it.

The second reason is screaming and beating children - the assertion that different these creatures simply do not understand. And such an idea sometimes is so deeply entrenched in the minds of some members of the male species that persuade them not feasible. But try to ask for your pet, and whether he was trying to find a common language with the younger generation by other means. Yes, the offspring, sometimes behave just disgusting, but put his two-legged pet aware of the fact that so what-what, and smashing and screaming it will not achieve anything except make things worse, causing a reaction strike. Also play on his vanity: tell him that he is simply amazing powers of persuasion, and sooner or later it will work and the children.

Maybe at first it will seem that your man has shown little interest in fair creatures, which you recently, and I want to see, not without its participation brought into the world. Do not worry, life experience shows that members of the male species begin to show increased attention to the kid when he gets rolling, trying to say something.But to persuade his pet to care for the child you did not hurt. Periodically, explains to his men that the child is still small and it must exercise patience and forbearance. Be sure that your pet will soon become one of the most attentive and patient fathers due to training and ... the love of his daze!