In every family there are periods when no overt hostility, the cooling between the couple. The beginning of this crisis can be a quarrel, but not necessarily. Sometimes in the life of any pair are moments when people are tired of the long-term close contact, and they need a rest from each other. It happens that one of the spouses carried away. But in general, with the age of passion, of course, is declining. And after that connects people - the overall economy? Maybe a habit and an unwillingness to change his life? Children?

You've seen the elderly couple walking on the streets? Seen, with what they fondly refer to each other? They - as a whole, although their passion ended long ago. Most likely, their lives were a lot of difficulties and hard times. Older people who live in harmony for many years, said: "It is not love, is something far greater." But is it more if it is, may make swearing, insults, betrayal? And how to overcome the crises of family relations , which, alas, is almost inevitable? Do not claim that marriage should be preserved in any case. For some, divorce - it's good. But let's talk about cases when at least one partner is not so sure.

There are several critical periods in a marriage. First - it is certainly time to get used to lapping and adaptation. This is the first critical period, and the first test of the strength of marriage. But this is - is only the beginning, the start of the winding road along which moves your family crew. A second danger period - is, according to many experts, a marriage that there are five - seven years. After this period, the family usually has survived many trials - usually by this time solved the housing problem, went nappy-kolyasochny age of the firstborn, define the relationship with parents. In terms of career men in this time, all very calmly, and there comes a kind of pause.

But no, to enjoy the fruits of their labor, as well as each other! It is often during this period - the most dangerous in terms of strength of the marriage. What is it? Biochemical studies have allowed some scientists to conclude that, for a permanent partner amphetamines - substances that cause high emotional interest, the production of aphrodisiac, and the production of sex hormones, that is, determining sexual attraction to one person, after six or seven years of communication with him stand out less. And psychologically, the charm of novelty, the joy of communication and possession is less, if not completely extinguished during the struggle for survival in the first years of marriage. Then, as his wife expressed himself in these early years, has been postponed in the subconscious. Comes true notion, with whom fate brought. Spouses have already studied all the advantages, disadvantages and weaknesses of each other. Or do they think so.

And if there was no real harmony, comes emptiness. Or just want something new. And then just to breathe in the domestic sense, it became easier. But both still young and full of energy! This is another test of the marriage. It is dangerous for women than for men. Why? The woman is just beginning to recover from the baby's upbringing, she was sitting at home, or returned to work, combining the care of a child with the duties of housewife and work responsibilities. Of course, it is no longer a young girl, and this period of change more women than other periods in her life, and not for the better more often, although there are exceptions. A husband - a young man, a career at this age in normal people usually goes to the mountain, looks great man, and who knows not whether he thought that his wife is too soon faded, and bogged down in everyday life? It's not very nice, and a man understands this, but still ...

And sometimes vice versa. If the husband does not live up to expectations, the wife, having collected will in a fist, it was at this time, finally, to cope with domestic difficulties and feels that the time when it has fulfilled its duty, no longer requires a full commitment. And she begins to look around, subconsciously looking after more than a worthy partner. Familiar! Just do not let my husband read it! What little steam escaped such a period in their relationship. Some even stayed on the verge of divorce, some people, and divorced, traveled, has embarked on the adventure. Most often, if you still cherish the couple with their marriage, children, if they share not only passion, from this period of family leave more mature and became strong. But sometimes the losses are painful, and pain brought by another, long haunted and sometimes unpleasant sludge staining his life.

The next crisis arises in the already more mature age, and falls on the period when the grown children leave home, create their own families. This time often coincides with the period of menopause, emotional problems are often connected with intimate, that, actually, and provokes the crisis. Here too, the situation may be reversed - the woman becomes free, it is usually okay at work and at home, and the man begins to worry about age, jealous of his wife, then there are all the same, and nothing connects, if there is no love. Is that the jointly acquired property. May manifest the syndrome of "the devil in edgewise, from both sides. That, in general, only reflects and observes that the crisis takes place.

A man who has lost the dignity, interest does not cause. In the best case he can only rely on pity. And how often the wife cries after retreating to her husband: "I gave you the best years, never saw light of day!". It may well be that and not seen. But who's to blame? Husband graciously accepted the adoration his wife to the moment when he is not bothered. But love must be mutual, and no victim nor the strength to hold her back. As a rule, leaving no "general", but to someone. Do not think that it is irreparable. The question is, are you willing to forgive and return to her husband, who succumbed to the temptation (of course, if it's just infatuation) - business equipment.