Cool, when in response to your proposal to leave boyfriend says something like: "I understand and accept your wish, but know this: you were the best and the brightest episode in my life I'll never forget. Call me if anything. " Unfortunately, there are other options for his reaction. About those "other options" no firsthand knowledge my friend Ludmila. Having decided to part with Vladimir, she felt a huge relief. He was a heavy man.

Throughout the six months of their relationship, he never tired of repeating that Luda - real burden that she did not need that he spit on her and her desires. Particularly fond of Vladimir trumps the phrase: "What does not suit? Then good-bye! "In the end Lyudin patience is exhausted. She came home to Vladimir and without much ado announced: "Vova, so can no longer continue, we do not fit together, I'm sorry, but I'm leaving." Five minutes he could not understand what is meant by the term "leave", and when before it finally dawned on his throw, Vladimir rage.

"He has wings on the mat was worth, - says Luda - accused me of all mortal sins, bestowed upon the most unflattering epithets, and I'm like a fool, started and began to yell at him in response. We tirelessly wing each other for thirty minutes. After that, Volodya ended arguments and stocks of obscene words, then he ran into my mug. I, fortunately, managed to dodge, but sobered me his act. I realized that more could be followed by physical abuse, and was surprised: the hell do I waste my time listening to all this? I have since had to leave and not figure out which one of us better and more picturesque than the foul language. In short, I got myself together and said quietly but clearly: "Volodya, that does not suit? Good-bye! "- And then quickly left his apartment without waiting for an answer."

In fact, the reaction of the men on the supply part can be very different, including very aggressive. Tip: If boyfriend react to your words sharp and inadequate in any case should not answer him, thus only adding fuel to the fire. To make allowances for his emotional shock. Do not engage in lengthy discussions on a raised voice. Just go away. By the way, once to clear the way for retreat, it is better to hold similar conversations on neutral territory.

And one more thing. In a fit of resentment and anger can tell a boyfriend all sorts of silly things. For example, he was happy to break you, because life with you was sheer hard labor. Or that he was happy to get rid of this ugly frigid hysteric as you. Do not rush to believe and take offense at his words. Most likely, it's just a sick reaction to stressful for him shocking news. This is hardly true, and he hardly think so actually. Therefore, no matter what he said, forgive him heartily. Perhaps, in his place you too would want to speak about his tiny manhood and other flaws. Not worth it! Respect each other. Even if it offended you, does not fall to the response screams. You are no good. Remember, the doctor on patients is not offended.

After a fight with his fists is not waving

So, it's done. You broke up. Now what? Should you just delete this person from your life? And if you're still worried, and worried about him? As it is there, poor thing? Probably going through. Perhaps we need it as something to support? Yeah, love and compassion for the oppressed and downtrodden women in the blood. We note with great enthusiasm to help relocate near rehabilitated after a love tragedy. That's only appropriate to help the former, especially if you own and the cause of his love tragedy? Is it worth it after the break for your initiative to call him first, to inquire of his health and mood?

On the one hand, there are many arguments in favor of such a friendly tone:

1. This action you prove that you do not care about the fate of the former lover. You'll be able to bridge the gap of understanding and, perhaps, pave the path for future friendship.

2. You can find out how your ex took the break, you will no longer torment of curiosity.

3. You'll see whether he has recovered from your breakup, you forgive you. In this case, you will no longer torment the conscience.

On the other hand, there are many factors that speak against such calls:

1. It can take your friendly sympathy for the desire to return to your relationship.

2. It can take your call for an act of pity and resent.

3. It may be just not ready yet to hear your voice, in this case, your call will be his salt on the wound nezazhivshuyu.

In short, to call or not call - to solve itself. You can see that the relationship did you have with your beloved. But if all the same make up your mind, try to keep as much as possible correct. Carefully chose his words so that he did not have the slightest doubt: a) that it's just a friendly call, and b) you do not wish him any harm and not call out of compassion or desire to make as it is bad without you. So be sincere. Tell me what to worry about it. What do you want him to have as soon as possible to get by. That is ready to be his friend.

By the way, you can start a conversation with a direct question: "Do you like to hear my voice? You do not want to talk to me? "And if the answer is yes, please do not duysya and do not consider him scum. Most likely, his feelings for you have not yet had time to cool down, which means that you can only have patience and give him more time.