What is your love?
First, you need to decide, you first need to understand themselves, first to recognize in ourselves that we are "boiling-boiling"? Or, say in another way, try to understand that we "live". The very wording of the question suggests the answer: seething passion, love lives. Let's not substitute for love, and love. We need to be able to understand and keep love in marriage. But! Provided that it is love.
There is no point in trying to retain what is due to chemical reactions - there simply is not respect for the place remains. When raging passion, respect is the shadow side. When all the emotional potential of the full passion, willingness to sacrifice is completely absent, because in a state of passion is only the willingness - to the supposedly eternal happiness. And if you speak more precisely - to the eternal possession.
You knew what was going on? Of course, about love. And in order to eliminate doubts in the various love and love is sufficient for the opinion of the authority in this area. Psychiatrist M. Scott Peck in his studies came to the conclusion that love - is
"Genetically predetermined instinctual component of mating," ... "which serves to increase the probability of mating and the emergence of mutual obligations to ensure the survival of the species."
Probably enough? We are talking about love, which contains all three components: passion + respect + willingness to make sacrifices. In his article, M. Scott Peck, the notion of "passion" replaces the term "love. This is due either to the overall theme article or the fact that the psychiatrist does not delve into the meaning, either due to incorrect translation. And finally, the final issue in this topic - how to keep love forever? The answer - your own behavior. Do not conduct your mate, namely yours, your own! As it is written - if you want love, give first love and get love in return.
Three components of love
Passion. It is solely your health, your libido. When a "want", it is not important appearance or behavior of the half.
Respect. If you do not like the behavior of your mate, how does your half if you do not respect the opinion of your mate, then at least ten times changed image, the mindset and modus operandi, if you are critical, then no changes will not help.
Willingness to make sacrifices. This is when you have something to lose (you've done something productive), and you have no "alternate airfield". And even more - important, and most importantly - do not want to have it.
We often become participants in the consumer's substitution of concepts. And all treated very simply.
If "love" means "want", it is only love.
Men's framework - "love" means to "serve (s).
Women's framework - "love" means to "give (him).
It should be understood to know that you need a save.
What is your love?
Love based on passion?
Love based on respect?
Love, based on the Sacrifice?
